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Even as a child I was never able to believe in the myths or rituals associated with organized religions but one question always remains. There cannot be a “better” squirrel, or cat or raccoon etc. but people can become “better” people, less selfish with more empathy and compassion for the environment and other creatures experiencing the same reality. The question is why is that? Why are we capable of being aware?

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Jim,

This article names the problem clearly, but I think it stops one step short of the practical answer.

Deconstruction fails when it is mistaken for liberation itself. It is not liberation. It is only the first movement of forgiveness.

That distinction matters because forgiveness is not mainly a philosophical idea. Forgiveness is a cognitive exercise. It is something the mind must actually learn how to do.

This has long been one of my deepest complaints about the church. The church requires forgiveness, praises forgiveness, preaches forgiveness, and makes forgiveness central to the Christian life. But it rarely tells people what forgiveness is or how to do it. So people are left trying to perform a spiritual obligation without a workable method.

At its simplest, forgiveness begins with **recognition and release**.

We recognize what is false, harmful, coercive, immature, distorted, or no longer adequate. Then we release it. We stop protecting what is false. We stop defending what no longer deserves defense. We stop calling fear obedience, conformity faithfulness, and certainty maturity.

That is the deconstructive movement.

But recognition and release are not enough.

If nothing truer replaces the old structure, the mind will often recreate another rigid structure somewhere else. That is why people can leave one closed religious system only to join a closed political system, a closed therapeutic system, a closed ideological system, or a closed anti-religious system. The vocabulary changes, but the cognitive pattern remains.

They did not complete forgiveness.

They recognized and released the content.

They did not reconstruct the structure.

That is where my own work enters. I use what I think of as an integral lensing strategy. It gives the mind a way to include earlier beliefs without being trapped inside them. It does not require people to despise or negate the beliefs that once carried them. It asks them to see those beliefs within a larger frame.

A childhood faith may be too small to govern adult life, but that does not mean it was worthless. A traditional symbol may be inadequate when taken literally, but powerful when understood developmentally, psychologically, mythologically, or spiritually. A doctrine may fail as a final answer while still serving as a partial window.

The point is not to humiliate the past.

The point is to locate it.

That is why reconstruction has to be fitted to the individual. People do not all need the same next step. Some need permission to question. Some need help grieving what they lost. Some need a way to reinterpret symbols they cannot simply discard. Some need a structure for moral responsibility after external authority collapses. Some need to learn how to remain in relationship with reality without grabbing for a new certainty.

This does not require a high-powered philosopher to solve. It requires a practical map of how human beings actually revise meaning.

Forgiveness, understood cognitively, does not merely say, “That was false.” It asks, “What more adequate understanding can now take its place?”

For me, the answer is love.

Not love as sentiment. Not love as niceness. Not love as emotional frosting on private spirituality. Love is the structure that allows reality to move safely between people. Love is what makes truth bearable, responsibility possible, and belonging mature.

So yes, the post-deconstruction crisis is real. People are stranded because deconstruction cleared the room but did not build the house. The answer is not to restore the old house. The answer is to help people construct a livable path forward, one that includes what was true before, releases what was false, and integrates reality at a higher level.

That is forgiveness completed.

Recognition sees what is false.

Release stops protecting it.

Reconstruction replaces it with a more adequate way of seeing.

Love gives the process its direction.

The real question after deconstruction is not merely, “What do I no longer believe?”

The real question is, “What larger truth can now hold what I used to believe, what I now see, and what love requires of me next?”

Jay Thomas Williams

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